Monday Motivation


Sometimes you have to ignore the downtrodden voice inside your head and just show up. This quote is the perfect reminder for a Monday morning – just because something seems impossible does not mean that it will never come to pass. Sometimes I get stuck in the daily motions of sleeping terribly, waking up to crappy music, dragging myself through the morning necessities, pouring coffee down my throat, and showing up to a situation I don’t want. I get through it and walk through my door in the evening overwhelmed with relief, only to have to go to bed and do it all again. Getting caught up in that nasty rut is not the end-all-be-all, and it is important to remember that there are other options in the world. I mean, shit – the amount of possibilities out there is limitless, if you only know where to look. So just because you feel trapped, or something that you want seems impossible right now, doesn’t mean that it won’t ever come to pass. Take a deep breath, be honest about where you are and where you want to go, and get on that shit. It’s okay to end something in order to begin something else.

I love this cross stitch pattern by the amazing Jody Rice of SatsumaStreet – it is a beautiful quote, and Jody’s use of cheerful colors that POP will add a dash of brightness to any corner of your life.

Stand tall, check that sunrise, and have a marvelous Monday!❤


How Do You Deal with Stress?


I wish I could remember this more often when I’m stuck in a downward spiral.

Everybody has battles to wage, and there are as many ways of handling problems as there are people in the world. I worry a lot. I mean, my writer’s brain easily comes up with ten different ways the worst possible scenario could come to fruition, and I spend most of my time battling against the worries of “what if.” One of the major ways I battle this stress is by occupying myself with the physical, mathematical, colorful, precise act of cross stitching. With cross stitching, everything fits inside its own little square, and by working one tiny bit at a time, you are quickly creating a thing. And it could be a special gift for someone else, or it could be an expression of your love of a fandom you enjoy disappearing into. It could be evidence of doing something productive with your twitchy, worrisome time, or it could be a communication of your thoughts and feelings to another.


This is what happens when you are too tired to cross stitch, but you do it anyway.😄

As a physical action against anxiety, cross stitch works wonders for me. But sometimes it isn’t enough. Sometimes my thoughts are so potently negative that it requires a mental battle more than a physical one. And therein I struggle because if I could flip a switch and quell the thoughts in my mind, I wouldn’t be so stressed out all the time as it is.

{What I’ve come to realize is that this avoidance doesn’t make the stress disappear, it just pushes it to the background, allowing it to slowly permeate other aspects of my life.}

Recently I came across a mental exercise that has really helped me out – after I tweaked it to my own needs. Usually when I’m stressed out about something, I shy away from anything that even remotely touches that stress in the hopes that it will eventually pass on its own. Stressed out about money? Ignore your depleting account balance, stop spending money, and hope that things will right themselves without you having to go all mathematical on a spreadsheet or something. Stressed out about how someone will react to something? Avoid them and the topic at hand and hope that you never have to cross that bridge. Avoidance has been a huge problem for me, as you can see. What I’ve come to realize is that this avoidance doesn’t make the stress disappear, it just pushes it to the background, allowing it to slowly permeate other aspects of my life. So instead of just being stressed about that one thing, suddenly I’m twitching with nervous energy, suffering from stress dreams, and overall miserable with everything.

So this mental exercise is basically playing the “What If?” game with the scenario that you are avoiding. Instead of avoiding it, face it. Tear the mask off that piece of shit and just look at it. Are you afraid of being screamed at? So what if they scream at you? Will it be uncomfortable? Painful, even? Perhaps. But you can’t control how someone else is going to feel, can you? You just have to let them feel it and stand tall. Are you afraid of bursting into tears in front of them? Well, shit happens, doesn’t it? Will it really be the worst thing in the world? I mean, I am barely grazing these scenarios, but I don’t want to get too in depth – the things that stress people out tend to be extremely personal and they can stay that way.


{It had to be self-contained and disconnected to anything else – like its own little box of stress, anxiety, and pain.}

In an attempt to embrace this idea of facing the stress head on – at least in my own head – I decided to start a Stress Journal. See, I even had to play a mind game with myself here because I couldn’t bring myself to use my regular journal for this task. It had to be self-contained and disconnected to anything else – like its own little box of stress, anxiety, and pain. Just get it out between the pages of that book and leave it there to rot. Using disassociation in that way has actually really helped me, because then I have given myself permission to let it ALL out – every worry, no matter how small and stupid, or how big and scary – with the idea that I could always burn those pages if necessary. It has left me with no excuses, and that is exactly the environment I needed.


{Why is your chest so tight right now? Why can’t you breathe? It’s okay, just be honest with yourself.}

So when I’m feeling stressed, I pull out this journal and ask myself – Ok, Deb, why is your chest so tight right now? Why can’t you breathe? It’s okay, just be honest with yourself. And I think that’s the point, at least for me: the stress and anxiety, a lot of times, comes from the fact that I’m not even being honest with MYSELF about how and why I’m feeling a certain way. And in the process of answering those questions I am really able to get to the bottom of it, and although it doesn’t make the situations disappear like magic, it does calm me, make me feel better about them, and even causes the situations to shift into a different light. Mind games, man, I’m telling you. And perspective.


{But this stress journal goes so deep into my fears and mental nightmares that I wouldn’t show its pages to ANYONE. And that’s okay.}

See, with my closest friends I’d be comfortable showing them entries from my regular journal that discusses my hopes, dreams, and responses to events in my life. But this stress journal goes so deep into my fears and mental nightmares that I wouldn’t show its pages to ANYONE. And that’s okay. Sometimes you don’t realize how much you lie to even yourself, until you start unpacking some of this stuff. If you can be honest with yourself and face the things that twist your heart into knots and tighten your chest until you can’t breathe, then you have gained so much power over your life.

The war is still ongoing, and I’m still fighting battles everyday, but I’m still here, and I’m still breathing. Whatever you have to do to help yourself, do it.

Do you have any tips and tricks that help you deal with stress and anxiety? I would love to chat in the comments section!

Have a wonderful evening, friends❤

5 Cross Stitch Projects to Get You in the Autumn Mood

As much as I love the idea of the beach and the memories of feeling so grateful to get out of school and be FREE, Summer always drags on too long, and here in the desert the sweltering heat is suffocating. The moment the weather starts to change, when football season kicks in, when the kids go back to school, I always breathe a sigh of relief and feel a sense of anticipation for Change. Of course, the leaves don’t change in Phoenix, and we don’t get biting fall winds, but we do get a bit of rain, and when I start stepping out of the door at 7 a.m. and feel a slight coolness to the air? That’s heaven.

The first day of Autumn was September 22, and that very weekend I hopped out to Bath & Body Works and treated myself to a “Fall” scented candle (Sweet Cinnamon Pumpkin). I smelled every candle in that store multiple times, for I didn’t want one too sweet or one too musky. Despite its name, I found a winner, and within two weeks it’s almost gone:(


Of course, being obsessed with cross stitch as I am, I couldn’t help but start collecting Autumn-related cross stitch patterns to help get me in the mood for changing leaves, changing weather, and changing times. I’ve collected 5 below that I wish I had time to make!

  1. Happy Harvest


What I love about Happy Harvest is that it’s not only colorful, but has enough going on to keep the interest of even the most distracted cross stitcher. Not only that, but it promotes fresh fruits and veggies, and there ain’t nothing wrong with that:)

2. Autumn


I’ve seen this concept done with Winter, Spring, and Summer too, and I think they would make great seasonal projects to work on. You could have a specific place in your home to switch out the work for each season as part of your decor. In addition, I love all the bits and pieces to this pattern that keep it interesting. I know just where I’d put this….

3. Fall Fairy


Here we have the classic Fall Fairy from Gold Dimensions. I’ve included it because I’ve probably stared at this cross stitch kit a million times at the craft store – I love the seasonal fairies and have always wanted to do this kit. It’s magical and dynamic and would be a great challenge for someone to take on.

4. Autumn Leaves


I love this pattern because it brings the beautiful changing leaves that are so characteristic of Autumn into my home. I lived in Virginia for several years and know the joys of changing leaves, but my eleven-year-old son has never experienced it since he has spent his whole life here in the desert. Having a piece like this hanging on our wall would be a welcome sight!

5. Pumpkin Silhouette


Lastly, we can’t forget that Halloween is one of the most characteristic aspects of Autumn. The inherent creativity and strange mysticism involved with the holiday makes it one of my favorites. I’ll have an entire list post dedicated to Halloween cross stitch patterns, but I couldn’t help including this one here since although pumpkins are related to Halloween, they are also simply related to the harvest season. I love this spiraling design against the black aida backdrop. Silhouette work is one of my favorite things to do with cross stitch – as you’ll see when I start posting my own designs on here. Frame this piece in an old Victorian-esque frame and it would make a great addition to your Autumn or Halloween decor.

Do you have any favorite Autumn or Halloween projects? I always look forward to making something new this time of year:)

Monday Motivation


Sometimes it’s the little things that get you through. The first thing I do when I turn off my alarm at 5 a.m. is take a shower, and the only thing that motivates me to use soap and shampoo instead of just standing under the hot stream of water is knowing that I have to get through those motions before I can have my COFFEE. To me, coffee is Life. Just the smell of it lightens my mood. The anticipation of consuming coffee motivates me more than most things. Forget cereal or bagels – I can subsist solely on coffee if necessary. It’s an issue.

I saw this cross stitch pattern and I thought, “Man, that’s so me.” Especially on a Monday morning. I do have a framed cross stitch in my kitchen near my coffee maker already, but I’ve collected quite a few coffee-related cross stitch ideas on Pinterest and I think I may need to create a collection in my kitchen (I mean, what’s the kitchen for, other than to brew coffee??) I mean, I’m currently working on a coffee cross stitch as we speak, so enough said.

When you’re facing a tough day, it can help to focus on the little things. For me, when I’m dragging my butt around in the morning, it helps to have chosen my clothes the night before, to have packed my work bag in advance, and to know that once I get downstairs I can have some coffee. Once I’ve had my coffee, I’m functional and I can handle my shit:)

Have a marvelous Monday you guys!

Monday Motivation


Sometimes Sunday nights really suck. I’ve been extremely stressed out lately, and all I can do tonight is think about all of the things I don’t want to do tomorrow. I am staying up way later than I should simply because I do not want to wake up tomorrow morning. It’s. The. Worst.

It is always encouraging to me to have something enjoyable planned for Monday evening so that I can look forward to it during the day (reminding myself that this too shall pass.) I just designed a new cross stitch project today, and I can’t wait to get going on it tomorrow, so that’s what I am looking forward to. As a writer, I am obsessed with all kinds of quotes, and I love the “chalkboard” style cross stitch I’ve been seeing on Pinterest – I can’t wait to show you guys my WIP once I get it going:)

Even if sometimes (or, most of the time, if we’re being real) we have to do things we don’t want to do, it’s important to have SOMETHING to do that is good for your soul. I saw the above cross stitch on Pinterest and I was like, YUP, I could not agree more! Here’s where it came from.

I hope you have an AMAZING Monday, and if you’re like me and have something not so enjoyable to do, I hope the time goes by quickly:)

Star Wars BB-8 Cross-Stitch Pattern


One great way to pass the time while waiting for a highly anticipated movie to come out is to craft your heart out. I’ve seen so many renderings of the BB-8 droid for Star Wars: The Force Awakens that I just had to do one myself.

I mean, check out this piece of art right here:

I love this cross-fandom work!

I made a time lapse video of my little cross-stitch project, and also have shared my chart below. (I’ve totally given up trying to make them digital – it’s just easier for me to draw it out on grid paper:)


I can’t see the movie until Monday, but I can’t wait to be sucked into the world of Star Wars once more:)


Halloween Projects

Autumn means cooler weather, a beautiful palate of changing leaves, and that indescribable scent of change on the air. Here in the desert we don’t really get any of that invigorating weather change, and the only things that really feel like Autumn to me are the American football season and Halloween. Instead of trees exploding with color, I see houses exploding with spider webs, witches and skeletons:) It isn’t until October when the temps finally edge out of the 100’sF. I love going to craft stores and seeing all the black, orange and purple Halloween decorations and crafts!


This year I made a Halloween wall hang in order to bring some fresh love of the holiday into my living room. I crocheted the background and then cross-stitched into it. I sketched out the design on graph paper and found the poem online. I think it came out great, and it really has me wanting to design a wintry one next (we don’t get snow here, either, lolol).


After that, I’ve been inspired by the movie A Nightmare Before ChristmasI saw a T-shirt design featuring Jack Skellington and the hellions doing the Abbey Road walk and just HAD to cross-stitch it. I quickly did a sketch on some graph paper to work it out, and have spent the last two nights working on it. I think it’s coming along nicely, and I can’t wait to share it when it’s finished!

hallosketch      hallojack


10 Awesome Cross-Stitch Projects for Harry Potter Fans

I’ve had Harry Potter on the brain lately – the first cross-stitch I ever personally designed was a golden snitch, and I am planning to undertake a laaarge blanket project featuring a sampling of HP-related paraphernalia. While on my Internet rounds in search of inspiration, I came across these awesome Harry Potter cross-stitch projects – all of which I would love to do if I had all the time in the world:

1. Alohomora


From the simple, such as this Alohomora key.

2. HP & Friends


To the three musketeers and their familiars:)

3. Chocolate Frog Card


And Albus Dumbledore himself. PatronusStitch has some other cute HP designs available as well.

4. Harry Potter Monopoly


Perfect gift for someone who loves HP and Monopoly! Love this:)

5. Academy of the Magic Arts


For a bit of a departure from the traditional, check out this wizarding school.

6. Lumos


I love this white on black aida! LUMOS, indeed:)

7. Hogwarts Acceptance Letter


Wouldn’t this be the perfect personalized gift for an HP fan?

8. Hogwarts in Detail


The colorful whimsy of this piece makes it so unique and interesting.

9. Hogwarts Castle


Or you could go the traditional route with this impressive rendering of Hogwarts Castle.

10. Fun with Friends


And what better way to celebrate the holidays than with this joyful scene in the Three Broomsticks?!


Geeky Hello Kitty Cross-Stitch Pattern

I came across this free pattern, and I thought it was just too cute not to post! I grew up with Hello Kitty, and I looooove the glasses. I made this in about an hour and a half, and I think it came out so great! You can find this free pattern here.

I also made a time lapse video of this project, with some nice music in the background, as part of a project I’m working on to fill up my dining room wall with awesome cross-stitch pieces:)


Harry Potter Golden Snitch Cross-Stitch

After making so many amazing little cross-stitches, I was finally inspired to grid my own:) I sketched out the snitch on some graph paper I printed out for free (I Googled “free graph paper printables” and found tons of choices), and then marked the cross-stitch grid from that. It was very liberating, and I made a time lapse video of the cross-stitch creation for my ProsperGeek YouTube channel. I promised to post the grid here, and it was way more difficult to digitize the grid than I thought it would be, hahaha. I don’t have any special programs, or know of any special programs, and so I simply used Excel, which was slightly time-consuming:) Anyways, here is the little Golden Snitch, which fits into a 4×6 frame:


I apologize for the “I open at the close” lettering – that was the hardest part to do! I’ll do better next time:)